Presently for freedom and openness of the woman do not wait any more when they are noticed by any given man, and do everything possible to accelerate this process. How exactly and where it is better for representatives of a female to make it, it is told in this article.
For what girls get acquainted
The purposes of girls which meet guys the first be it a direct initiative, or the hidden drawing attention of the representative of an opposite sex, can be absolutely different:
- good pastime as way of entertainment (short nature of the relations);
- companionship as way to stick bigger number of acquaintances;
- the serious romantic relationship calculated on potential long character.
But often the main reasons pushing the woman on acquaintance are following, closely connected with the last purpose:
- existence in mind that man who is ideal by all inquiries and parameters for serious relationship, however insufficient level of arrangement for closer communication from its party;
- absence of suitable applicants, and respectively, independent search of those.
Important! The relaxed atmosphere, habitual for the girl, with the smallest number of competitors will facilitate a problem of acquaintance, will remove nervousness and shyness.
As it is correct and where it is the best of all to get acquainted with the guy
Before beginning to get acquainted, it is worth acquiring for itself that the most widespread types of men is the following:
- Ladies' men and pikaper — the guys who are too often changing girls; generally prevail by means of ability to fall on ears, to interest in the flattery and cuteness; they look at the same time as the real gentlemen and humorists, however, if to observe such young people slightly more time, then it is possible to notice excessive excessive sweetness in their behavior and fast lowering of hands in unsuccessful attempts to tempt victim.
- Lovely romantics, or the kind dreamers loving I will allow to strike and surprise in the most original ways: by means of recitation, presentation of flowers and other gifts, even singing of serenades under windows; however, as practice shows, on it all also comes to an end as it is impossible to construct and implement serious plans for the future at them.
- The serious, reliable young people ready to the long-term relations and creation of family who are responsible for the words capable to surprise not only with words and gifts, but also the real men's acts.
Proceeding from for what you want to get acquainted with the new person and what you want to see near yourself the man, it is necessary to decide on the place and way of implementation of acquaintance.
Whether you know? In nonverbal communication (communication of individuals without use of words) hands, skreshchyonny on a breast — a closeness signal. It means that even if the girl, having met the eyes of the man, will smile and will try to start talking to him, the similar gesture with hands at the subconscious level will push away the last.
Passive way
The passive way is the best option for acquaintance of women to guys. It is explained by the fact that the man by the nature the hunter and very few people from them will like the fact that production itself goes to hands. Therefore we offer several options which are not assuming active actions, but indirectly helping with a potential tie of the new relations with an opposite sex.
Definition of the place
Acquaintances of girls to guys happen almost daily under various and often unexpected circumstances:
- in bar, club or restaurant, on the beach, in a karaoke (as statistics shows, in such places of the man get acquainted for nothing the binding relations);
- in cafe, cinema, theater, in the museum, at exhibitions, sports competitions, concerts, festivals;
- in educational institution, or at work (during a corporate lunch), on master classes or to seminars on certain activities, in library (moderately modest, bright and diligent girl who at the same time is sensibly interested not only study and working questions, but also rest, will manage to draw attention not of one man);
- in the pool, the gym (a request to explain technology of exercise, to check its performance or to secure perfectly works in a zone power, aqua- and cardiovascular machines and also free scales);
- in supermarket (this that place where it is possible to ask without remorse the pleasant guy council what whisky it is better for brother to buy as a gift or to ask professional opinion it is regarding some goods in construction department);
- on the Internet (the interests and preferences specified in the questionnaire of the young man will help to decide quicker on the choice, and the small volume of information on itself and an easy note of mysteriousness from the girl will push the guy on knowing it better; by the way, guys write girls who have a profile photo twice more, than that who has no photo at all);
- in other places of combination of common interests, skills of both sexes, whether it be dances or language school, other institutions or actions;
- in the street;
- through mutual friends.
This list can be continued long, but the place of acquaintance directly depends on your purpose and on what person you want to see nearby: the clever intellectual, the athlete with beefy muscles or experts.
Important! The men wishing to get acquainted with girls generally choose places in which they already were where it is pleasant to them, and they feel comfortable. If you regularly appear in the same place, you will hardly remain unattended some frequenter handsome man.
To watch the appearance
It is known that men are visual therefore the attractiveness of the woman plays the most important role in acquaintance to the representative of an opposite sex as this first impression which you will not manage to change in the future at all.
The real lady has to look magnificently under any circumstances: she goes to work, in cafe, or in shop behind bread. It does not mean at all that you have to put on a short dress with a frank decollete or some brilliant dress reminding the star which rather came on a silver platter than the girl. The excessive sexuality, the shocking frankness and vulgarity are perceived by men as sign of bad taste, low cost, despair and a low self-assessment of the personality.
Ideally, you have to have slightly open only one part of a body: if the skirt overknee, so cannot be any decolletes; and vice versa if your order slightly underlines refined top forms, then knees have to be covered. Not less important role is played by footwear: it has to be accurate, clean and qualitative.
Whether you know? If you want to establish strong connection with the person, during each communication tell the name of the interlocutor at least 2 times. According to psychology, a name of the person — one of the most magic words influencing interaction and mutual understanding in the relations with it.
Pay attention to manicure, and in the summer also to a pedicure: long and too bright nails are not fashionable any more. Well-groomed hair and accurate laying and also an easy day or evening make-up (depending on a situation and the meeting place) — one more safe trump in a pack at a game in acquaintance to the man.
The simple style of the clothes hiding shortcomings and emphasizing advantages and also existence of unique highlight speaks not only about good taste of the girl and her love for themselves, but also about the polite attitude towards people around.
To be more often in loneliness
Girlfriends, especially unmarried, help with acquaintance to the boy or the guy only when the last came somewhere to the companies of companions too. But there is a probability that at all not that which liked you will please you. If you have an acquaintance purpose, you should not appear in the company of the man anywhere, whether it be your brother, the friend, the classmate or the fellow worker. It frightens off the one who under other circumstances could take the first step on the way to acquaintance to you.
Walks alone, independent campaigns on cultural actions or entertaining evenings are green light for those who look for couple. However listening of music in earphones, constant peeping in phone and other similar actions can create an impression that at the moment you are not interested in new communications and communication.
Not to avoid the guy
Image of the snow queen and the unapproachable beauty with a gloomy and evil look — not the best options in an issue of acquaintance and flirtation. The coldness and indifference, all attempts to show that you avoid communication with that person with which you want to get acquainted, are perceived by the last at all not as a game in tag as many think, and on the contrary as direct refusal of potential communication.
Important! In educational or operating conditions it is easier to get acquainted with young people: it is possible to ask something to explain, to help with something, or to suggest to have dinner somewhere together.
To be too persuasive, or too emotional is not necessary too. Show the interest by means of a second short look and a faint lovely smile. The sincerity, cheerfulness and good mood will attract to you much more interest and attention: guys like moderately open and sociable, cheerful, but at the same time quiet and balanced girls.
Active way
If you do not manage to draw attention of representatives of a strong half of society by means of passive methods in any way, try to take the initiative. The patriarchy was cancelled for a long time, we live not in the period of the Middle Ages, women have the same rights, as well as men, and in it there is nothing shameful.
To apply cunning
It is not obligatory to approach unexpectedly the person at all with the offer to stick acquaintance; this desire can be veiled: for example, to ask the phone number for the guy, referring to the lost dispute with the girlfriend, or, standing sideways, to pretend that you communicate or you joke with the acquaintance, and then to apologize for what was mixed. Generally, there is a lot of options and if you have good imagination and actor's talents, then it is even better. It is a good way of acquaintance for those who want to get both positive emotions, and adrenaline and also to develop ability to interest the man.
To ask it about the help
Innocent ways of acquaintance make a good impression on representatives of a strong half of mankind too: to tell the truth, any person likes to be for someone necessary and useful, and the man in respect of protection, support and supports and even less so realizes the purpose.
The request to show the way on the street (if you got lost), to hold the elevator, a door at office, a house entrance, to get something from the top shelf of trade department, to repair something broken, to help to inform of weights a certain place of very few people will leave indifferent.
Whether you know? There are certain distances in human contact, having broken which you can negatively win over the interlocutor — so-called personal or personal and also an intimate zone. The first assumes observance of distance in 45–120 cm between people (often this communication with friends, colleagues, companions, with existence only of visual interaction), and the second — 15–45 cm (the contact between relatives, well familiar people including tactile communication).
But it is important not to go too far in the matter — to the man has to be with you well and easy, but it is not intense and problematic. It means that you should not speak rapidly too with requests, to become the alarmist worrying in an occasion and without without applying besides, other ways of attraction of interest of the stronger sex.
To ask questions
It is wrong to believe that the attention and interest are loved only by girls. It are pleasant to guys not less when surrounding representatives of a fine half of mankind divide their outlook, reckon with opinion and respect their mental abilities. Professional questions of you perfectly will help with arrangement to you the unfamiliar nice guy or requests to explain the mechanism of operation of some device, for that simple reason that most often the person is interested in that who is interested in him.
To give a compliment
The praise and compliments in moderate quantity and a truthful context, but not dithyrambs and odes of their courage and appearance are pleasant for men too.
Learn in more detail how to be pleasant to the guy at school or to the schoolmate.
Place a light accent on professional skills, some uniqueness and singularity of the young man. You can admire his pet as indirect manifestation of sympathy, or speak flatterly of someone from relatives.
It is opened to declare the interest
The open statement of the girl about the interest in the man is very courageous and cardinal step on the way to potential acquaintance to the representative of a strong half of mankind which suits not everyone (concerns of both sexes). It needs to be done with the maximum care (not to frighten of the pressure and not to make an impression of the girl seeking for self-affirmation), but also with clear trail in the success (that there was no impression of despair and lack of sincerity).
As practice shows, most often it is a question of good luck: you can get on the person to whom the girl's initiative is unacceptable, and can make a bright impression by means of the extraordinary act and enter into the new interesting relations.
Councils how to get acquainted with the guy for the serious relations
Whatever way from stated above you chose, the following recommendations will be useful to you:
- Most of males appreciate honesty and identity: be yourself. Acquaintance to the guy is not the soap opera where it is necessary to put on himself a mask and to play absolutely other person.
- During the conversation it is not necessary to stir and retell too much all the life, especially to speak about plans for a marriage and the number of children. Learn to listen and understand.
- The behavior of the girl during acquaintance has to be at the average level between modesty and freedom, she should not seem light-headed and irresponsible at all. Seeing gravity of the woman in a conversation, men automatically behave in a corresponding way.
- If you have a child, do not hurry with the message of this news to the elect: it is not necessary to speak about it bluntly at the first request to tell a little about itself. That moment when you see gravity of intentions of the young man will be optimum. You have to treat it normally as you for certain look for the person who will accept also you and your child. The unavailability to it is the thorough reason for a rupture of such relations, and it is unimportant, there is it to yours or from its party.
- Analyze mistakes which were made earlier at acquaintances to men and try not to make them in the future.
It will be interesting to you to learn whether there is a friendship between the man and the woman.
Regardless of a floor, any person is afraid to be rejected, but at the same time wishes to meet that partner who will change life forever, will decorate it with the presence, will make more interesting and more various. It is worth approaching the matter scrupulously for the reason that the human relations are some kind of art in which everyone uses the general cloth, but the pencils and brushes. And if there is a coincidence of desires, views and preferences of two people, that fact who exactly took the first step is not so important.